不要再說『隨便』或是『都可以』 / Don't say ''everything is fine'' just beause you don't want to think

不要再說『隨便』或是『都可以』 / Don't say ''everything is fine'' just beause you don't want to think

我相信大家都有這樣的經驗：

跟朋友們一起去吃飯的時候，朋友A問：『今天晚上要吃什麼好呢？』

朋友B說：『都可以阿，我很隨合的，我什麼都吃。』

I bet this happens all the time among everyone. When dinning out with friends, friend A asked you "hey what do you want to eat for tonight?"

Friend B replied "everything is fine with me. I am very easy-going. And I eat everything."

也許在這種時候，朋友B說都可以，可以省下很多麻煩，尤其是在朋友A已經有打算吃晚餐的地點時，但是朋友B再用體貼一點的用語，像是『你有想要吃什麼嗎？想吃麵還是飯？』先詢問對方的意願，表示你的尊重，最重要的是不要讓對方覺得你沒有在思考對方的問題；甚至，你對自己的意識也沒有在思考。

Maybe in times like this, friend B saved a lot of troubles and time by saying everything is fine. But things could be better. If friend B asked friend A "what do you want to eat for tonight? Do you want to have rice or noodles?" Asking friend A shows friend B's respect. Most important of all, it shows that friend B is thinking about friend A's question. It shows that friend B is listening.

有一部電影叫做『命運好好玩』是由亞當山德勒與凱特貝琴薩主演的，劇情大約是男主角亞當山德勒在因緣際會下得到了一個宇宙遙控器，可以跳過人生中不想要經歷的片段，像是在早晨起床時洗澡，漫長的升遷等待等等，而在跳過這些經歷時，亞當山德勒的心智會由一個叫做自動駕駛員(AUTO PILOT)的程式會幫你做思考以及行動，所以亞當可以直接跳到自己想要去的人生片段...。

There was a movie called Click. That was a very good movie, played by Adam Sandler and Kate Beckinsale. It is about Adam Sandler got a universal remote by chances. The universal remote can let Adam skip the parts in his life that he doesn't want to experience. Something like taking bath in the morning or the long wait for next promotion. While skipping the parts in his life, his mind and body will be controled by a program called Auto Pilot. Auto Pilot will do all the thinking and acting. Adam can just enjoy being to the moments he wants to go to in his life.

在現實生活中，在你說『隨便』或是『都可以』的時候，就好像讓自動駕駛員控制了你的心智，而有一天你會習慣這樣的模式，不管誰問你任何的問題，你的第一個回答都會是『隨便』或是『都可以』。

In real life, saying "everything is fine" is like letting the auto pilot taking over your mind and body. And once you get used to it, "everything is fine" will always be your first options when you are asked a question, especially easy ones.

如果，今天是你的小孩，開開心心買了三包他最喜歡的餅乾想要跟爸爸你分享....

小孩說：『把拔，我剛剛用馬麻的零用錢買了三包餅乾喔，有兩包是你喜歡的X乖喔！把拔想要哪一種口味？』

爸爸說：『都可以啦』 爸爸一邊看著電視，看起來一點也不在意的樣子，下意識地這樣回答自己心愛的小孩。

小孩說：『喔..........。』

然後小孩低著頭默默地離開了爸爸的房間。

試問，這樣的小孩在父親的忽視下長大，在成人後，會有一個溫柔的心嗎？

But what if, what if it is your adorable kid bringing you his favorite candies that he wants to share with you.

Adorable Kid says: Daddy, I just went shopping with Mommy. She let me buy some candies. I got your favorites! Which one do you want?

Daddy says: either one is fine. And daddy is wathcing TV without looking at his loving kid. Daddy answered the questions without thinking.

And the kid returned to his room.......quietly.......

Do you want your kid to grow up in this kind of family

今天我的思考有點太過於跳躍式，但是我想要說的是：

『為自己，以及為自己愛的人，不要隨便地放棄自己的意識，好好將自己的友情、愛情以及親情等等的感情好好傳達給對方。』

My thoughts kinda jumped around today.

But what I really want to say today is:

"For yourself and the ones you love, don't give up on thinking. And diliver your love to them well."